Afterlife Communication Study
Caryl Dennis
If you love Lisa Williams, John Edwards, Ghost Whisperer,
Medium, and psychic phenomena in general –
You’ll LOVE the Afterlife Communication Study!
Study Goal
Conducted by
Introduction
Eligibility
Procedure
Debriefs
Conclusions
Study Goal
To obtain verifiable information from a deceased loved one
Conducted by
Caryl Dennis
Professional Psychic, 30 years, Author & Researcher
This study was inspired by the work of author & workshop leader
Bruce Moen, Afterlife Knowledge Guidebook
Conducted from 4-18-2009 to 1-17-2010
Introduction
The Afterlife Communication Study was inspired by the work of Bruce Moen author of Afterlife Knowledge Guidebook and four other books on his exploration of what he refers to as the “afterlife”. I met Bruce and his wife Pharon in 2009; they had recently moved to the small town where I live. We immediately hit it off, like we had known each other before (which we have). We have had the fascinating opportunity to spend many hours discussing this subject.
I have been a professional psychic for twenty years. I never considered myself to be a “medium”, although I occasionally felt that I received impressions from those who had crossed over. I wanted to find a way to break through my belief that I wasn’t capable of clearly communicating with the dead at will, mainly because many of my clients had a desire to connect with their deceased loved ones.
I immediately read all of Bruce’s books and practiced some with his CD exercise recordings, but I really wanted to experience one of his workshops in person to build my confidence. Over the weekend of March 14 & 15, 2009, my opportunity to do so materialized, and I was not disappointed.
The workshop was held in the perfect location for such an event, a haunted old resort hotel called the Belleview Biltmore in Clearwater, FL. There were a total of eight people in the workshop — four of whom knew each other quite well, and four strangers. Four of the participants were professional psychics, and three of them were professional mediums. The goal of the workshop was to make contact with and receive verifiable information from a deceased loved one.
Because of my familiarity with altered states of consciousness, it was easy for me to reach the initiatory relaxed state of awareness using the preparatory processes that Bruce teaches.
Our first exercise after learning the inductive protocol was what Bruce calls “retrieval” of a deceased person, by means of a kind of guided “meditation”. My guide/helper/twin, Karyl, appeared to me right on cue, wearing in a long blue dress. She brought my attention to a squirrel scampering by; I followed it to an old man sitting on a park bench. He wore a rumpled suit and hat and was leaning on a cane. He seemed to be enjoying the park, but was somewhat confused. I got the impression he had Alzheimer’s. He said his name was Ralph, and that his daughter, Becky, had gone to get some apples and would be right back. She had told him to wait right there – so he was. He told me it was 1974, and he was in Ohio. When Bruce instructed us to ask for a Helper to come, his wife “Marianne” (also deceased, of course) appeared. His face lit up as he recognized her, and off they went. Et voila! A successful “retrieval”!
Bruce instructed us to follow the “retrievees” so as to see where they went. All I could see were tiny points of light or stars in a black background and I had my first conscious experience of the sense of astral flying. When I asked why I was chosen for this “retrieval” the answer was that I look like his daughter.
I didn’t really receive any verifiable information that I could verify, but previous experience in my work as a psychic convinced me that, because the “pictures” I saw were generally clear and vivid, the “retrieval” did actually happen in some dimension.
The next exercise was extremely exciting. We each wrote on a piece of paper the first and last name of a now-deceased individual whom we had known personally, and whom we wished to contact. Each participant then drew one of the slips of paper, the objective being that the name he or she drew be unknown to its recipient. Bruce then guided the group through the process of contacting the people named and gaining verifiable information from them. (Verified information will be in parenthesis.)
My first impression was of a “grandfatherly” type person. (My partner had written down his paternal grandfather’s name.)
I saw a man with a white beard. (He went to stay with his grandfather once for a very memorable summer. A large portrait of Ernest Hemingway hung on the wall over his grandfather’s bed; it made a strong impression on my partner. In his later years, of course, Hemingway famously sported a bushy white beard.)
I could see the grandfather playing chess or checkers. (That summer they played a lot of chess.)
The setting in which I saw the old man was pastoral, with green grass and rolling hills, but it did not seem like a farm. (His grandfather worked in a nature preserve for many years and loved it.)
I got a woman with a name that began with an “M”. (The name of the young man I was reading for began with an “M”.)
I got a pain in my left ear and mouth almost immediately. (His grandfather did have ear problems.)
Grandfather said, “Tell your mother I’m sorry”. (My partner said his parents were divorced, but his mother had taken care of his grandfather at the end of his life. He was not aware of anything for which his grandfather needed to apologize, but he said there could have been.)
I got the sense that the old man was good-natured. (My partner remembered his grandfather as rather stern and reserved — he’d been a military man.)
All in all, my partner felt I had given him accurate information, along with a few “maybes”.
The name I wrote down was my that of sister, Linda. Linda and her husband were brutally murdered in 2006 by their personal trainer. While we know many of the details of the crime, there are still some unanswered questions.
The woman that was reading for me heard “she wears turquoise” and saw a flowered cloth she perceived as a tablecloth. (I was wearing a flowered jacket and turquoise/blue dress the day of the workshop.)
She immediately felt pain in her neck and down to her breast. Her “interpreter” translated that to maybe a stroke or breast cancer. (Her killer slit her throat and stabbed her repeatedly in the back.)
She got that Linda didn’t die right away and hospice was involved. (We don’t really know how long she lived after the attack, but Hospice was certainly not involved.)
She said she was fine now and her husband was with her. (They both died in the same incident.)
She saw us sitting, chatting over coffee with flowers around. (I couldn’t relate to this, unless it was at her funeral!)
At one point she got that Linda was 40, then in her mid to late 60’s. (She was 59 when she died.)
She said, “Tell Madeline she makes a great cheese plate.” Meaning to her that she knew Madeline. (Madeline was a participant in the workshop, an old family friend who knew Linda, and who brought cheese and crackers to the workshop for afternoon snacking!)
She saw a short-haired, ugly cat. (Linda had a long-haired ugly cat. My reader said to her, short haired cats were ugly, long-haired cats were not – an example of “the interpreter” getting in the way of “the observer”?)
So in this exercise I, too, received some verifiable information.
My husband, Parker, who is not a professional psychic and claims no particular “psi” gifts, nevertheless came up with some of the most specific information of the afternoon. The woman for whom he was “reading” had written down the name of a dear friend, a man who was both mentor and benefactor to her at various times in her life, but who was never her lover. Parker retrieved a goodly amount of generally accurate, albeit symbolic or metaphorical, information. Most astonishing – and amusing – was the image of a female torso, with a mole between and slightly below the breasts, and slightly off center. (The image came when Bruce instructed us to ask for some verifiable information to bring back.) When Parker laid that goody on her, she laughed heartily, saying she did indeed have a mole down there that had always “bothered” her because it was “off center”!
When Parker was writing the name of the person he wanted to contact, he had trouble choosing between two dear friends (both now dead, of course). He finally selected the name by arbitrarily muscle-testing. Interestingly, the information his “reader” brought back applied to both! Even the physical description of the person he encountered was a combination of the two. Bruce said it was not uncommon for that to happen when one is conflicted about choosing a “contactee”.
Everyone in the workshop managed to retrieve at least some verifiable information, which only affirms the power and simplicity of the techniques that Bruce teaches. With his mechanical engineers mind and years of methodical research, he has developed a method of afterlife communication that is easy to use and easy to learn.
The Afterlife Communication Study was created to allow me the opportunity to practice my mediumship skills.
Eligibility
At least 18 years of age
Have a deceased loved one you wish to contact
Allow anonymous use of results
Willing to offer feedback & follow-up
Procedure
Preparation:
A. Prior to your appointment, think of any questions you may have about your life right now.
B. Decide which loved one you wish to contact.
If you are doing a Phone Session:
A. Be sure you have emailed your current photo. (caryl@rainbowsunlimited.com)
B. Find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed for one hour.
C. Have your list of Study Questions handy.
D. Take a few minutes before your scheduled appointment to take a few deep breaths, calm and center yourself and reflect on the person you have chosen to communicate with.
E. Call 727-793-0858 promptly at the appointed time.
If you are doing an In-Person Session:
A. Come to 454 Main Street (Sunset Point) in downtown Safety Harbor promptly at the appointed time. Map
B. Try to schedule a time when you are not rushing from or to some where.
1. We will begin with your Psychic Reading.
You will discover your “Life Color” and have the opportunity to ask whatever questions you may have (career, relationships, financial, past lives, whatever) that do not relate to the deceased loved one you wish to contact. More information about my Psychic Readings HERE.
2. Next, you will be asked to write the first and last name of the deceased person you wish to contact on a piece of paper. You will give this paper to Caryl or tell her the name.
3. Caryl will state our Intention: “It is our intention and desire to contact (your loved one’s name), to visit with, to communicate with, to gather verifiable information from and be of service to them and to bring back a special message from them to the person who gave me this name.”
4. You will be given a series of questions to ask Caryl. Please do not respond in anyway when the answers are given. You will have an opportunity to do so later.
A. Describe my relationship to _______________.
B. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
C. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
D. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
(Now asking questions of your deceased loved one)
E. What are you feeling or experiencing?
F. What happened to you – how did you get here?
G. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
H. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
I. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
J. Do you have a special message for me?
K. (Ask your loved one whatever questions you may have)
5. You will offer Caryl feedback concerning the information provided after all questions are asked while the Session recording is played back.
6. You can ask questions and offer additional feedback/revelation/understanding at the end of the Session.
Debriefs
Session #1, 4-14-09
1. What age do they appear? – 40
2. How do they appear – what are they wearing?
Short-sleeved shirt, sleeves rolled up, collar. Looks very strong, especially upper arms, blonde hair. (Strong man, blonde hair – did not roll up short-sleeved shirts, but did long-sleeved shirts)
3. What’s in their surroundings?
4. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Happy, light-hearted, jokester, loving the freedom of motion, very active
(Always told jokes and kidded around, was very active until he had a stroke)
5. What happened to you – how did you get here?
Suddenly in bed, tired, no energy, lack of mobility issue frustrated (he had a stroke and recovered somewhat)
Death: Slipped out, quiet, not a lot of trauma (Died driving a car with his sister, suddenly dead at the wheel, they were able to stop the vehicle, #1’s perspective was that it wasn’t traumatic)
6. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Wood, maybe model airplanes, made things and gave them away (He was professional woodworker and in later days did make things to give away)
7. What is your favorite memory I will remember?
Saw a boat with #1 and him in it, teaching something, learning experience, lots of people on the shore, picnic or campout. (He made the boat and was always teaching them something when they went out. Often others would be on the shore for a picnic or campout.)
8. What is a physical lifetime scene both of us will remember?
Garage, everything in its place, very organized and orderly, him showing #1 something. (It was actually his workshop in a basement, where all his tools were very organized, cleaned, sharpened and orderly. #1 spent a great deal of time with him there where he taught her to use her own tools)
9. Show, tell or give Caryl something that is proof this visit is real?
Small, round thing, belonged to him, coin?, cufflink, tie clasp, definitely round, to be passed on to daughter or someone. (It was a round good luck, four-leaf clover, protection medallion engraved on the back. She passed it on a few years ago to her son-in-law in the military.)
10. Do you have a special message for me?
Gratitude and appreciation for #1 taking care of someone, not him, “kindness” (#1 took care of his sister after his death)
Session #2, 4-14-09
1. What age do they appear?
60 (49 when he died), gruff, but very sweet
2. How do they appear – what are they wearing?
Balding, long pants, long sleeved shirt tucked in, under shirt visible at the neck. (He always wore long pants and an under shirt visible at the neck and was balding)
3. What’s in their surroundings?
Men (only) sitting around in a circle playing a game – dice or cards – no dice, laughing, playing having fun (He played backgammon every afternoon with his male friends – using dice)
4. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Enjoying himself, relaxed, comfortable, he worked hard during his life and felt guilty for doing something, had a lot of male friends (He did work hard and did have a lot of male friends)
5. What happened to you – how did you get here?
Sudden, heart attack, pressure in chest, surprised, shocked to be where he is. (He had a heart attack without prior warning and was dead in two days)
6. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Back to the men sitting around a barrel playing dice (He owned a distillery and they used barrels and the men could have played backgammon on the barrels)
7. What is your favorite memory I will remember?
Hugs, felt safe, everything will be okay, #2 little and he seemed so big
(He did hug her a lot and it did make her feel safe and he did seem big)
8. What is a physical lifetime scene both of us will remember?
Standing together looking at someone in a coffin, lots of hugs, it seemed okay because he was there. (He died when #2 was 10 and they never stood together looking in a coffin – unless it was his coffin and he was standing there with her looking at his body.)
9. Show, tell or give Caryl something that is proof this visit is real?
A song, rhyme or statement, between them, their secret, familiar to her, I couldn’t get the song. (He had a special little song he sang just to her – in another language.)
10. Do you have a special message for me?
#2’s children came to mind, heart went out to kids, loved them a lot, she did a good job raising them, close to them (He never knew her children, but another psychic told her he was watching over them.)
Session #3, 4-15-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Grandmother, a lot of interaction when young (Great Grandmother, she did have more interaction when she young)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Very loving, sweet, cooked a lot, took care of people with food (She was sweet and loving and did cook a lot, loved cooking)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Plump/roundish, apron (Was plump and frequently wore an apron and house dresses)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
Kitchen, Cookies! (Spent a great deal of time in the kitchen, most of #3’s memories are of being in the kitchen, cookie recipe passed down)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Happy, not alone, there was another woman there, seemed like a sister, best friend or confidant, someone close to her. (She was a happy woman, her husband died before #3 was born, not aware of a close female confidant)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
Food, digestion, choked, consumed something – digestive issues (Not sure what she died from)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Cooking! – her way of demonstrating love, loved it, proud of her recipes, taking care of everyone, always had food before you left her house (Food was a very important aspect of her life, #3 played board games with her)
8. Describe one of your favorite memories of me.
#1 was a little girl sitting in the kitchen at table, barely able to look over the table, showing her how to cook (#3 didn’t remember a specific incident, however, could very well have happened since most of her time with her great grandmother was spent in the kitchen)
9. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
Same scene as in 8 – back in the kitchen helping her make Christmas cookies to be gifts.
(She did help her make Christmas cookies to be given away many times)
10. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
#3 didn’t get something her great grandmother wanted her to have, she told her she would get it – rings?, someone else got it, my impression is it was a necklace for “only special occasions!”, #3 loved it, it was just overlooked. (#3 isn’t aware of anything she was promised, sounds like something she would have said about “only special occasions”)
11. Do you have a special message for me?
#3 was her favorite, Flashed to babies, wants her to have babies, she is watching her and will be carefully watching over her future children and helping her. (#3 was the oldest and probably knew her better than her siblings, #3 Mom said she always loved babies)
12. (Ask your loved one whatever questions you may have)
Was she aware of #3’s mother at her bedside when she was dying?
I got her mother was reading to her. (Not sure, but probably reading the Bible or prayer book and praying)
Session #4, 4-22-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Mother, loving, watching over her (it was her Mother)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Very loving, mobility/leg problems, distressed over physical weakness, frustrated – not as active, restriction, wishing she could do more and people didn’t have to do for her (She did not have mobility/leg problems, however she did use a cane for stability)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
More about the mobility issues (Not a hit)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
Loves the activity, freedom and mobility (Loved walking)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Freedom – “Free now” (She wasn’t really restricted – they had just returned from a cruise)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
Heart, chest, maybe lungs (She died of a heart attack in her house alone)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Walking and sightseeing (Yes, #4 took her on lots of vacations – her main hobby was needlepoint, which I did not get)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
The two looking into each other’s eyes and sharing a huge LOVE moment, perhaps after she had done some sort of physical care for her. Then I saw a #4 as a little girl playing on a swing with two people watching, loving and adoring her. (#4 did not take care of her and does not recall either event)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
Deathbed conversation about something that was to happen after her death related to the house. (Didn’t happen, Will was long established – she did get ½ the house.)
10. Do you have a special message for me?
Rush of love, gratitude and caring, she’ll be there for her when it’s her turn, wasn’t perfect but did the best she could. (#4 always felt her sister was her Mother’s favorite and told her so on the trip they had just returned from) Note: Maybe she wanted make the point that she really did love her.
Session #5
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Lover, very loving relationship (It was her Uncle, however, they were very close, confidants, told they had been together in another lifetime)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Light-hearted, liked to “lift people up”, make them laugh, help people (Yes on all of them, he was a hypnotherapist (lift people up, get it?) dedicated his life to helping people)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Toucher, very affectionate (YES, very much so)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
Flowers, plants, greenhouse, grower (Not particularly a grower – committed suicide in his backyard in the grass, flowers around – she now loves flowers and gardens)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
He can help from their better, “from another level or perspective” – there’s that “level” word again (Yes, she knows of people he has checked on)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
Sudden, unexpected, fast, feels like blood zipping through his body, maybe aneurysm, died early (Committed suicide due to pain, it was fast, bullet to head, had a blood disorder and other issues, early 70’s)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Flowers, plants, helping people (No on the plants or flowers – Definitely helping people! #5 felt it was probably a metaphor for always planting seeds as he helped people)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
Particularly meaningful conversation, from the heart, water or boat, beach, lazy day, needed to say something to her. (Yes, many of these sorts of conversation always on the beach or near water, they were confidants, did not remember any specific incident)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
He came to her shortly after his transition, it was very subtle, she did notice. I got the impression of a card or letter that came to her after his transition. Not from him, but about him – very meaningful. (#5 did not remember any specific incident where he came to her right after his transition, however there was a near-miss accident right after where she felt she was “invisible”, like she had experienced with him before his transition. Does not remember a specific card or letter – it was 5 years ago)
10. Do you have a special message for me?
I know what you did and am very appreciative. They will have another lifetime together. I will see you again. (#5 connected with her Aunt (his wife) on a much deeper level after his transition and she felt that was what he appreciated so much.)
11. (Ask your loved one whatever questions you may have)
Do you have a message for your brother (#5’s father)?
“It’s not as bad as you think” – meaning death, it was said with a sense of humor. He will be waiting for him. I got a sense of a problem with #5’s father’s legs or feet and there is something he could be doing and isn’t because he thinks it won’t work, but he needs to do it – it will help. (I asked #5’s if her father was afraid to die, but she said she didn’t think so. I think she just isn’t aware of the depth of his fear. He does have something wrong with his legs. She isn’t aware of anything specific he isn’t doing that he knows about.)
Session #6, 5-1-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Mother, good relationship, very loving, #6 “gave her a run for her money” (Yes, her mother and YES gave her a run for her money in her teens)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
BUSY! Helping people, family first but volunteered, worked, very busy (Yes, she was very busy, hospice volunteer, always volunteered, always helping people)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Very neat, clean and ironed – big deal, busy again, fashionable (Yes, always busy and always neat and fashionable and made sure her family was too)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
Saw a man next to her, felt like #6’s Father (Parents divorced, but Mother always loved him, Father is in spirit now, on her deathbed she said she “would be dancing with Dad again”)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Lots of time now, does as many things as she wants, freedom is a big deal (Freedom from pain probably, severe arthritis for many years she was brain fogged due to the drugs in the end)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
My head and eyes hurt, brain foggy (She died of pancreatic cancer, her head could have hurt, but she wouldn’t have told anyone)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Volunteering, helping, church, charity devoted a lot of time to them. (Hospice volunteer up to the end of her life, always volunteered and helped other people)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
Shopping for a special dress, prom?, girlie day, meant a lot to #6 that she spent so much time and patience with her (Didn’t remember a specific event, she did help #6 shop for her wedding gown)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
“She never mean to” – that was all I could get (#6 had a list of what that could have meant, including an attempted suicide after her father left.)
10. Do you have a special message for me?
Proud of her for what she has accomplished and how she raised her daughters, #6 reminds her of herself, they look alike (She always told #6 that she was proud of her and they did have many of the same body features, they were both good at whatever they put their minds to.)
11. (Ask your loved one whatever questions you may have)
Do you see (name 1)? Sometimes, “she is someplace else”, sometimes interact, not much (It was her sister who is alive)
Do you see Dad? Yes, a lot, that is who is around her (He is in spirit)
Do you see (name 2)? Sometimes, feels distant, some interaction (She is in spirit)
Note: This was particularly interesting to me because I said “she (name 1) is someplace else” and my perception was very different from (name 2) who is in spirit now and her father who is in spirit.
Session #7
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Brother – I knew this before the Session, buddies, very close, close in age (They were buddies, less than 18 months apart, no other siblings)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Everybody’s buddy, made friends easily, talked to EVERYONE, very outgoing, comes from the heart, learned this from the family (YES! Exact description and he did learn it from the family – they were all very close)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Flip-flop kind of guy, bermudas, casual, not in a hurry, “loves music”, not a worrier, easy going) (YES! Exactly, and he really loved music)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
Water, beach, lakes, he loved water, important part of his life (He LOVED water and lived a block from the water for 18-20 years)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Surprised to be there, coping and adjusting well, discovering how it works, exploring, spiritual – not religious, good guy, honest, honorable, watches over the family, comes around a lot, close to this dimension, enjoying the exploration (He was spiritual and not religious, good guy, honorable, mostly honest)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
Sudden, car accident, surprised, something from outside himself, not due to physical issues, he was here and then there (It was sudden – brain aneurism – so it did come from inside not outside as I had perceived – so he would be surprised, doctor said he would have been very fast. He was alone, with his dog in a motel room, wasn’t found for a couple of days)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Water, hanging out, beer, nature, on beach, being outside (YES! to all of those)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
Walking holding hands, water nearby talking about his concerns, money, “WASN’T asking for money”, sharing from the heart, confiding in you, felt really close to him (There were many such walks and talks on the beach, confiding in her, particular one does not stand out in her memory, they could have been holding hands since he was such a toucher. She had a “dream” after his death where they were holding hands.)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
I saw a steamy bathroom, my attention was drawn to the mirror, not sure if it had already happened or was to happen, may be able write in the steam on the mirror, trying various things to get her attention (She did not remember anything that has already happened, however, since his transition she has focused on learning to mirror gaze by reading Raymond Moody’s book. She got something of his that he kept in his bathroom after his transition.)
10. Do you have a special message for me?
They had been married in a previous life, probably the most recent past life, so much in love, this life was a Dharma lifetime – not Karma, he was here as a gift in this life, a special connection, he trusts her, you were there for him, it is time for her to wake up [spiritually] and he will help and guide her with her spiritual growth, so you will understand where he is and what is happening to him, his early death (48) was part of the plan, not an accident, the way it was meant to be. (#5 always felt like they had been married before and has been on a spiritual journey since his transition)
11. (Ask your loved one whatever questions you may have)
Was he at his funeral? A male friend stood up and said something about a trip and he was amazed by it, “had no idea” (Yes, he did say something about a trip at his funeral)
#7 has had the experience of him pushing down on her twice and heard her name while awake and he touched her hand like she did to him in the morgue in a “dream”.
He had a dog that he was very close to (nothing came up about his dog)
He will come through in dreams to her kids.
Session #8, 5-6-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
My first impression was mother, then I heard “No sister”, a very motherly sort of relationship, loved very much (It was her sister, who was very maternal to her and all the children)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Lots of struggle in her life, life of learning a lot of lessons, loving and wanted to help others, but had so many of her own struggles (Yes, always struggled in life, things were harder for her, over weight, less opportunities, leukemia)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Walked funny, limped or something (Yes, had knee injury did affect the way she walked, not the first thing that came to #8’s mind)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
Things are easier now, isn’t the struggle, relief, calmer atmosphere (She did have a rough life of struggle)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Enjoying the ease of things, relief (She struggled with leukemia for 7-8 years)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
Long illness, struggle, easier than she thought in the end, expected it to be harder (She was sick for 7-8 years, but she died suddenly of Hep B, she imagined she would die of cancer, but she died suddenly thus easier)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Sewing, using her hands, reading (Yes, she sewed for #8-graduation gown, did crafts and used her hands a lot)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
Lake, cabin, dock, swimming, summer vacation, “close in a different way”, meant a lot to her (Yes! every other summer vacation was spent in just such a cottage growing up, key part of their childhood, did have a special visit there later in life)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
She appreciated what #8 did for her son and her kindness to him. (Yes, she did have a son, deceased and #8 were estranged at the time of her death and #8 reached out to him after her death and tried to help him)
10. Do you have a special message for me?
Thank you for what she did at the end of her life. Thank you for continuing on her behalf, felt like it had to do with a parent (Yes, #8 is advocating for their father. #8 did try to help get special care for her at the end)
Session #9, 5-14-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Father (Father)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
ETHICAL – big deal, in control, businessman, successful, the boss, control issues, family and extended family priority (VERY ethical – priority in his life, businessman, successful, family and extended family very important)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Formal, suits, dressed well and his family too, likes to be admired, he looked like a large man (Yes, definitely to all of these, he either wore his military uniform or a business suit, he was tall and well built)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
Deceased family all around him, holding court, respected by a lot of people (Did a lot of anonymous charity work, respected by a lot of people, people listened when he talked, family was a priority)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Control in a different way, busy man, need to keep things under control, good sense of humor (Military training, yes, sense of order about everything, very much in control of things, very busy man)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
Stress, heart/chest/lungs, sudden, surprised, expected something else (Plane crash, steering wheel crushed his chest)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Business, providing for family and extended family, eating, family dinners (He loved business, always tried to get home for dinner, loved large family dinners, always concerned about extended family)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
He was teaching #9 to ride a bicycle, special for both, very patient, precious time, each appreciated for different reasons, celebrated success (#9 didn’t remember a specific incident, however, he did buy her a bike and he was very patient and any time spent with him alone was precious time)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
I saw a large portrait of him with something hanging down on the lower right corner like a ribbon. (#9’s brother passed recently and a couple of days prior to session #9 received a book that he had made of his life and there was a portrait/picture of her father in his uniform with a ribbon/sash hanging down to right)
10. Do you have a special message for me?
Appreciation for continuing his work, suddenly I heard “You look just like your mother!”, he sounded surprised, #9 had a special place in his heart, you didn’t give him as much trouble as the others, fair-haired girl. He will help #9 with wisdom concerning the foundation (He set up a foundation that #9 is continuing to administer, he chose her out of the 6 children to continue it, she never realized he was her favorite until after his death and his best friend told her, she did follow all the rules and she does look VERY much like her mother)
NOTE: This was a particularly interesting session to me because #9 had read the questions and came to her own conclusions about what my responses would be. I did not give the responses SHE expected, but after thinking about it, they were probably the responses HE would have given. This would perhaps indicate that I am NOT reading the sitter’s mind, rather obtaining information from the deceased.
Session #10, 5-15-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Mother, [#10 is a personal friend and I knew her Mother’s name, however, I did not know her Mother and very little about her.] they traded roles, #10 was more the Mother, always tried to help her, teacher to her, #10 brighter than her (Mother, yes they did seem to trade roles after #10 was about 30, she tried to give her information and ideas to help her.)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Introverted, not aggressive, meek, mild, withdrawn, private, holds things in, quiet, in the background, comes from early childhood and “OK with that” (Yes, she was always in the background, not a lot of friends, reserved, very private, withdrawn, not a social person and quiet, but when she had something to say she did)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Always wore dresses, rarely if ever wore pants, average looking, nothing outstanding, secrets (Did wear dresses early in life – Later in life -No, she usually wore pants, very neat, well-dressed. Yes, average looking)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
Field, flowers, colorful, “shade trees too”, open space, peaceful, quiet, lots of colorful flowers (She did plant flowers around her house, but flowers were not a big deal to her)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Relief from being in the body, lighter, enjoying mobility, free, serenity, “comfortable now”, her passing was different than she expected, “pleasant surprise” (Body did not move in the end and it was very frustrating for her. She didn’t know what to expect on the other side)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
Multiple issues, she “slid” from here to there, not what she expected. There were people taking care of her on this side and surprised there were people taking care of her on that side too – didn’t’ expect what she got. Delighted with what she found on the other side. [Of all the Sessions I have done so far, this seemed like the easiest crossing as she “slid” from one dimension to the other] (She was cared for in hospice and she appeared to cross very peacefully. Drifted away, took a deep breath and left)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Sewing, cross-stitch, worked with hands, couldn’t do what she loved for a long time, reading, but it was difficult at end, eye problem? I suddenly heard “secrets” [a rather odd place for “secrets” to come up, “secrets” came up again later], held back a lot. (Yes, she loved sewing and crocheting and reading, but couldn’t read after a stroke because of a eye problem – very frustrating for her. #10 has reason to believe there may have been a large secret about her birth. Kept everything to herself, did not show emotion or express herself)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
Vacation walking, shopping, sightseeing down a long road toward a pier at the end, mother/daughter bonding you didn’t feel very often, #10 was a adult. (No memory of a specific incident, but could have been a trip to San Franciso)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
I saw a box about 4”x6”, “pieces of other people’s lives in it”, “has treasures in it” (She had a recipe box that she loved that was that size and it had her favorite recipes from everybody she loved in it)
10. Do you have a special message for me?
Gratitude for her “teaching”, appreciated her “enthusiasm”, spiritual information, didn’t understand at the time, helped set her up on the other side, helped her understand and integrate on the other side, if she hadn’t heard it, it would have been more difficult, “made the whole thing easier”, #10 was always special to her, especially at the end. (#10 did keep trying to offer her spiritual information in the end, even though she didn’t feel like her Mother was getting it, she kept it up)
Session #11, 5-21-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Sister, or like a sister, a lot of love, supportive both ways (Grandmother, Very supportive, always talked about how successful #11 would be, more of a motherly relationship)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Happy, bubbly, friend to everyone, friends huge part of her life, will do anything for a friend, sweet, light-hearted (Doesn’t remember her that way, prone to depression, didn’t have a lot of friends he knew about, good at heart, would not describe her as happy)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Curly hair, likes to wear bright colors, bright, beaming smile that was very noticeable, happy (Yes, she had curly hair and liked to wear bright colors – #11 doesn’t remember as having a memorable smile) [I actually got that she had red, curly hair, but didn’t say “red” – I know, easy to say after the fact.]
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
Serene, lake or pond, bright different colored flowers, wind in the trees, quiet, restful, peaceful (She did like flowers, she felt burden by the world/life, looking for a tranquil setting)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Serene, calm, at peace, “I accomplished what I came there for, eventhough it seemed early that I left”, “no reason to be sad” (Died early to mid-sixties, #11 thought it was early, depending on your perspective, #11 felt she probably did feel she accomplished her purpose)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
Female reproductive area, cancer?, childbirth, painful!, not sudden, prolonged process, “to long” (Lung cancer, prolonged, 3-4 months, pain most of her life, she would probably say it took to long, lots of pain, no fear of dying)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Loved outdoors, going and doing, not sitting, walking, travel, busy, active, not one to be home knitting (liked outdoors, sickly much of her life, lots of pain, had arthritis so didn’t move well, did take vacations when younger, didn’t do a lot of travel as far as #11 knew, enjoyed the porch,)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
Beach, sand toys, sunny, beautiful day, ice cream, bonding, felt closer (Doesn’t remember, however, #11 did go to the beach a lot as a child, possible she was there, but didn’t like to be in the sun because she burned easily)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
I saw a small object in the palm of her hand, a gift to him either he received or was supposed to receive, not a ring, had writing on it, trinket/memento that was special to her (People didn’t get what they were supposed to after she died – family problems, he didn’t receive anything or know of anything specific he was supposed to receive)
10. Do you have a special message for me?
“You worry to much”, “she knows”, don’t have to keep trying to tell her something, trying to hard to communicate, easier than you think, she visits and watches over, she will be there when #11’s son is born and will watch over him (He is a worrier, he has been trying to communicate with her, she always told him how successful he would be)
Session #12, 5-31-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Father [then I seconded guessed myself and said maybe brother] (Father)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Big-hearted, always helping people-big thing in his life, good-natured, buddy, professional, maybe doctor or psychologist (Big hearted, always did help people, buddy and very good natured, Commercial realtor and property management)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Curly hair-no straight, a lot of it, large, tall man (Yes, tall and large; a lot of wavy hair)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
Water, deceased friends and family around him, very social (He was very social, bar fly; did like to fish, not a beach person)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
He can help more easily from that side; surprised how people think, their thought processes and emotions (He did always help people. He was an alcoholic. #12 didn’t think he thought about those things in this life, could not express himself well) [Maybe that’s why he seemed so fascinated now]
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
Long and slow death process, chest or lungs, “pumping”, more than one issue (Heart attack, diabetic and kidney problem, he lingered)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Helping people (Yes, he loved helping people; he loved golf and she thought he would say that)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
Snow, sled or disk, other people around, she was injured and he took care of her (#12 doesn’t remember that and only saw snow a couple of times in her life)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
He visited #12 right after he died, moved something, #12 was aware of the incident, he watches over her (She did remember him visiting, but didn’t remember him moving something)
10. Do you have a special message for me?
Thank you and appreciation for something #12 has done since his death that she didn’t want to, but had to, my attention was drawn to her mother, “family issues”; “Sorry” for something, I wasn’t clear about what – later got that it was about his alcoholism (#12 has had to take care of her Mother who now has Alzheimer’s and there were “family issues” that made that very difficult for her, but she did it anyway because she promised him she would just before he died)
Session #13, 6-19-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Grandfather, loved her very much, mentor (Great Grandfather, but was more like a Grandfather – very close)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Quiet, loving tried to express feelings, but not good at it (Yes quiet [except at the dinner table] and usually said the wrong thing trying to express himself)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
I didn’t get anything here (He always wore Cuban shirts and a cowboy hat)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
I saw him sitting quietly in a chair, alone, resting, sort of stunned (He sat quietly and listened to the radio all day – probably waiting for his wife now)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Stillness, appreciating the quiet, chaos prior to his death (They had to take away his license before he died and he didn’t like it and became rambuceous and angry – probably appreciating the quiet now)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
“Slipped away”, probably in sleep, not traumatic, breakdown of the system, old (He sat down, lost consciousness and passed soon after, 80 years old, he had a stroke a few months earlier)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Family even though he had a problem showing his emotions, walking and fishing (His family was extremely important to him, he loved to walk, pick vegetables and fish)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
I saw them walking, holding hands, #13 was about 8-10 years old, just the two of them, in a zoo, he was talking about the animals – special because it was just the two of them (At first #13 didn’t remember the incident, but suddenly all the memories came flooding in – they were at the zoo and he was talking about the animals, everyone else went somewhere else and it was just she and her Great Grandfather – it was a special time to her)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
He is watching over his wife and she is fiddling with a Rosary or beads of some sort, he is concerned about her. (#13 Great Grandmother is still alive and has dementia and does have many Rosary beads which she fiddles with all the time)
10. Do you have a special message for me?
“Take better care of yourself”, likes that she is going to be a nurse so she can take care of his wife [I didn’t know at this point his wife was still alive] (She is going to nursing school and does want to be able to take care of her Great Grandmother)
Note: He only spoke Spanish, so she was wondering if that would have anything to do with how I perceived information from him. It didn’t seem to. This was the first time I couldn’t perceive anything about their dress or mannerisms. I don’t know what that was about.
Session #14, 6-28-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Daughter [I knew beforehand]
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Wanted to help people more than able, something was holding her back not sure if physical or emotional, sadness about that (Long depression, drug addiction, bright, artistic, creative, free spirit, felt she could fix people)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Curly hair, long, gobs of it, wild looking, sweet face, comfortable clothes important, no pantyhose or suits, laid back, “I like to be comfortable” (Wavy hair, various lengths, various colors, definitely on the comfortable clothes and being comfortable)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
People around – children, children issues, “can help from here”, “free to help now” a big deal (Can imagine that, she had 3 abortions, very difficult for her, regret)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
“I can help these children”, catches children when they cross who don’t have anyone and are scared, orphans, again a sense of mother issues (Definitely she did have mothering issues, didn’t feel she was capable of raising a child in this life, thus the 3 abortions)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
Cancer?, long process, debilitating, surrounded by people she loved, their tenderness and gentleness, felt comforted and loved, “crossing was sweet and easy, even though it may not have looked like it”, much appreciation for everything (She committed suicide, by herself, found after, she had been talking about it for a long time and #14 knew she was going to do it, but couldn’t stop it, it was her choice) [I was wrong about the cancer, however, if you think about it from her perspective, her depression may have felt like a cancer to her. It was a long process, as she had been talking and thinking about it for a very long time. Perhaps “the surrounded by people she loved” and all that, was when she reached the other side]
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Music, dancing, movement, yoga, may have had some sort of restriction, confused whether she did it or wanted to. (Yes on the music, No on the rest)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
Lots of laughing, cruise or near water, fun, long talks, closeness, warm and fuzzy feeling, happy hearted experience (The family went to Hawaii when she was 16, it was a long time ago and #14 really didn’t remember the details of the trip. They had been doing a lot of laughing before she died at her cat that was doing funny, crazy things)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
“Wanted you to have that”, I saw a picture, something made for you by her that is displayed, not sure if they were the same things. You have a picture of her you talk to. There is something under a bed, maybe her possessions, “by the way, it’s ok to get rid of it” (She was an artist and #14 has lots of her work displayed. #14 found some special pen and inks that #14 had not seen, maybe that was what she wanted her to have. #14 does have a picture of her that she talks to every time she leaves or comes home. Doesn’t think there is anything under a bed related to her.)
10. Do you have a special message for me?
“Thank you for what you did, I know it was hard” Appreciation for everything towards the end and her whole life and the support and “being her cheerleader”, sorry for the nonsense and what she put her through, she has regrets in her life and visits her. I saw #14 in her bed with a night stand to her left and her standing on that side of the bed, she said #14 has looked at her and sensed her coming from that direction. “It’s easier being there than here. I can understand it all differently from here and here is not so far away” (She lived with #14 for the last ten years of her life and it was very difficult for both of them with her depression and suicidal tendency. There is a night stand on the left of #14’s bed, not sure if she has felt her from that direction. #14 was always there for her and she knows she appreciated it. She has had dreams of her) [I got very emotional/teary during this question, which sometimes happens when a guide or discarnate person is very strong and close to me. It is something about the change in frequency.]
Session #15, 7-21-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Brother (Father’s brother, very close, understands why I would say that)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Outgoing, happy, bubbly, good-natured, a good friend (Yes, correct)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Well dressed and “looking good” – important to him, but likes to be casual too; large, beautiful, outstanding, expressive eyes (Yes to all)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
I didn’t see anything – only darkness (“I did feel his presence around me when you didn’t get any impression. I know he is around me when I feel a vibration on my left ear and I was feeling it throughout when in no. 4.”)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Relaxing, resting, feels like he just passed (Passed in 1994)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
Sudden, shocked, confused, “what was that?, something suddenly happened to him rather than illness, maybe a car accident? [me guessing] (Had a heart attack in his sleep when he was drunk, didn’t know he had a heart problem – it was a shock to everyone including him- this response made sense to #15)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Does something with hands, maybe carving?; walking, loved outdoors and nature (He was a writer, so he did work with his hands in that way; loved to walk all the time and did so whenever possible)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
Vacation, water, wide beach to hotels, lots of people, swimming & playing in the water, fun, bonding experience (#15 didn’t remember going to such a beach with him. “I still don’t recall any experience with him on the beach at all. Talked to my father about it and neither does he. My uncle rarely visited beaches at all.”)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
“Get this tie off me!”, saw him ripping off a neck tie, like a private story/joke between them (#15 couldn’t relate to that. “While that comment about ties isn’t something that I recall or that resonates between him and me, I do recall that he rarely ever used ties. Don’t think I saw him wearing a tie in my life, so only in that sense it does make sense.”) [In a followup email Caryl asked #15 if maybe his uncle was dressed in a tie in his casket, but he was cremated.]
10. Do you have a special message for me?
“Be Free!”, go have fun and play, wants you to be free, like something held him back (#15 understood what that meant)
11. (Ask your loved one whatever questions you may have)
#15 is a writer and he asked if his uncle had read his books?
“some of each, it was difficult for him to do that”, but he wanted to (#15’s books weren’t published until after his death)
Session #16, 8-4-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Friend, sister, lover, close to your heart, heart connection, did not feel like a parent (Mother, interestingly #16’s sister, who is alive, has the same name as his Mother)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Beautiful smile, happy, gentle, sweet, generous, would give you her shoes, loved to help people (Yes, definitely and a beautiful smile)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Beautiful smile-again, loved to make people smile – grocery store or wherever, playful; clothing-loose, hippie looking, comfy, baggie (The smile perfectly described his mother and the clothing perfectly described his sister)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
Hospital ward, lots of beds, no curtains between, she is helping people “bringing them joy” (His mother was a housewife [I wondered if maybe she was a nurse], but #16 could imagine that would be something she would be doing in an afterlife because she loved to bring joy to people)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Freedom, ability to help, can help more now, “this is my assignment”, emotional help, cheer people up, lift their spirits (#16 could imagine that)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
My attention was drawn to my chest, lungs, breathing, maybe heart, but more lungs (#16 didn’t know the actual cause of death, she was in the hospital for a skin issue when she died)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Computer, typing, being creative, cooking, sewing, crafts, painting “it had to be beautiful” (She was very creative and did all of those things except painting, computer/typing didn’t relate) NOTE TO CESAR: DOES YOUR SISTER USE A COMPUTER?
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
I saw a sidewalk with row houses to my left, they were walking and talking and stopped to sit on a step (On her last visit with #16 they went to New York City and walked the streets in just such a setting. It was a very special memory for #16)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
“Didn’t get to say goodbye, wasn’t possible, but had communication with her since (True, #16 didn’t call the night she died and had some regret about that and he did feel he had communication with her two months later during a shamanic journey)
10. Do you have a special message for me?
She is going to be a guide or helper and help you with the details of your new career, “she will whisper in your ear”)
NOTE: The confusion between the Mother and Sister in the beginning was interesting. Bruce has noted this type of confusion in his research. It was also fun to be so accurate on #8 since I haven’t been very accurate with that question in most of the sessions.
Session #17, 8-20-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Grandfather, I knew ahead of time (Grandfather)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Strong personality, businessman, control issues, big heart, help if he could, a bit gruff (Yes, a businessman, engineer, big heart)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Suits, business, again control issues (Yes, more formal dress even after retirement, often wore golf cap, didn’t know about the control issues)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
Chatty, holding court, likes to talk, well-respected, looked up to in this dimension and in spirit, I heard “brothers” (Man of few words, could have been more talkative in business life, Yes, well-respected and looked up to, doesn’t know if he had brothers)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Enjoying where he is, no responsibility or people depending on him (Yes, probably felt responsible for his grandchildren)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
Heart, pressure in chest, not surprised at where he ended up, seemed fast to him
(He had a pacemaker, could have been his heart #17 wasn’t sure cause of death)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
GOLF!, loved to be outside, family, business (YES, golf was his passion and family)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
#17’s birthday party, saw a large table with people, age 8-10, Grandfather got him a train that his parents couldn’t or wouldn’t get for him – big deal to #17 (#17 didn’t remember this event or a train)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
#17 did or said something at his funeral that his grandfather was very touched and surprised by (#17 kissed his grandfather on the forehead in the casket at the funeral)
10. Do you have a special message for me?
Grandfather very proud of him and has a special place in his heart for him, most like him, sees himself in #17, “I really like your lady” [girlfriend], “be careful not to let your ego get carried away”.
11. (Ask your loved one whatever questions you may have)
What happened your last night in the hospital?
No one responded, alone, panic (#17 not sure if he was alone when he died)
Why did he want the window open?
“Easier to get out!” (that is what #17 guessed)
What was he doing with his hands?
I saw his hands fiddling, I got that his spirit was seperating and it kept him focused on his body so he would stay in it.
I got the impression he was thanking #17 for doing something after his death, maybe funeral details “You did it so nobody else had to” (#17 wasn’t sure what he was referring to)
Session #18, 9-11-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Brother or brotherly type relationship, family, close, didn’t really feel like a brother (Very close nephew)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Laid back, didn’t stress, day to day, responsible, not a go getter, good heart (He probably could appear that way when you first met him, but he really was a go getter, bright guy)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Chewing gum, casual dresser, relaxed, laid back (Yes casual dresser, body builder)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
I saw what looked like snow, it was all white, I saw an older car, 40-50s (Didn’t know of any connection to cars, there may have been a car poster in his room)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Enjoying it, older woman there, maybe mother, “I’m not alone”, feels safe (Older woman could be his great grandmother.)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
I began feeling a strange tingling in my arms and then like an explosion in my head, my guess was something like an aneurysm. Felt like he passed quickly and gently, “cruised to the other side”. Got what he expected (He was 18 and died of cancer throughout his body, something ruptured in his belly just before he died. His parents had been reading books about dying with him just before he died and had been openly talking to him about it. They felt he had peace about it.)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Cars, laid back, chillin, hanging out (Musical, martial arts, history, didn’t know of any connection to cars)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
Both of them on an airplane going some where they needed to go, like a funeral or something, not a vacation, bonding (#18 does not remember flying with him at any time)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
Something of his was hanging on the wall in #18’s home, reminds #18 of him every time he walks by it. (#18 has been taking care of the deceased parent’s home this summer and there is a wall of memorabilia from the deceased hanging on the wall and he does think of him every time is walks down the hall, He could not remember anything hanging in his own home.)
10. Do you have a special message for me?
Thank you for taking care of something #18 agreed to do and is still doing. (He didn’t remember anything particularly he agreed to do.)
Session 21, 10-16-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Dear friend, strong heart connection, like a brother or mate, not a relative (Grandfather, very close relationship)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Art, creativity, color, busy, scattered, frantic activity (No on the art, creativity and color; Definitely Yes on the busy frantic activity
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Colorful, flamboyant, outgoing (No colorful and flamboyant, Definitely Yes on Outgoing)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
Colored sheer fabric, moving in the breeze, bright, shiny light (Didn’t relate)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Peaceful, franticness stopped, restful, comfortable (Could imagine he would enjoy the peacefulness)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
My whole body felt electrically shocked, trembling, nervous system issue, systemic, internal, gone fast, stopped suddenly, loud noise bothering him (Bone marrow cancer, could have felt that)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Music, creativity, cooking, food (No to all except he loved food)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
Conversation in a car, “getting it off their chests”, both of them, sharing from the heart (He did have a very serious, meaningful conversation with him after his diagnosis – it did not happen in a car)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
Comes to visit, has nudged him on the upper arm, helps #21 with ideas, I saw a bed with a mirror at the food of the bed. (He doesn’t remember any nudging; there is a mirror at the end of the bed in his father’s house where #21 stayed when he visited)
10. Who are you with?
I saw a woman about his same age, sister, close to her, comfort to one another (Grandfather’s sister died a couple of weeks prior)
Session #22, 10-16-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Father, respect, distance hurtful to #22, ups and downs in relationship (Father, but sounds like #22 Grandfather)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Gruff, rules, inner conflict about religion, strict childhood upbringing, limited, tried to show love and affection, but not good at it. (This described her Grandfather – not her father – #22 thought I was connected to her Grandfather after I answered #1 they had the same name, Jr & Sr, before the session, #22 wondered if her Grandfather would come through since he was more vocal)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Wore uniforms, mechanic or laborer, didn’t like it, rather be comfortable (Father yes – Grandfather not sure)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
I saw cars (Grandfather was a drag racer, cars, trucks and cars)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Life is easier now, didn’t like all the responsibility, weighed on him – not now (Grandfather sacrificed a lot, a lot of responsibility)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
Chest pain, heart, lungs, felt like there was an issue about who was there when he died, “wasn’t a problem for him” (Grandfather died of heart attack in a nursing home, not sure about issue about who as there. Father died ?? )
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Cars, basketball, playing with kids, “misunderstood”, people didn’t get him (Grandfather loved cars, played volleyball until quite old, loved playing with kids, people said he was misunderstood at his funeral)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
Picnic, park, lots of people and kids around, fun, he got her a birthday present, special (Every 4th of July the family gathers at a mandatory picnic – big deal. Grandfather and Father always there doesn’t remember any present either gave her at the picnic. Grandfather did get her first bicycle which was very special to her)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
Small necklace, he gave her, was his, given to him (Doesn’t know of anything like that)
10. Who are you with?
Woman, sister, like a sister, “not as bad as she used to be”, sees things differently, mind changed. (Grandfather’s sister-in-law used to be very annoying to him, probably her)
Session #23, 12-20-09
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Daughter (Daughter)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Loving, childlike, innocent, sweet, protected in her life (Yes)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Conservative, quiet emotional personality, dressed down, loving, willing to help, reserved (Yes)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
Helping, all about helping people (Made sense to him)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
Sudden, but there was an illness, sick for a while, but died quickly, surprised at what she was getting and how she got there (She had cancer, but did die quickly, “you were right Dad”)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Music big part of her life, volunteering, helping others (She did love music, but not a major factor, loved volunteering and helping others, all she ever did)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
She was giving him a special gift she made and was very proud and excited about it, birthday or Christmas, he was so touched that she had worked so hard to make this, important, special connection they had because of this gift (He did remember this)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
Still has the gift she gave him in a drawer (He does have a drawer of mementos from her)
11. (Ask your loved one whatever questions you may have)
Session #24, 1-17-10
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Sister or mother, confused [I think my “interpreter” snuck in there because of the name he gave me] (Mother, he does have a sister)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Smiling, happy, loving, upbeat, huggy, toucher, warm & fuzzy, sensitive to others feelings, would give shirt off her back (Not a touchy, huggy person as he remembers her, but Yes to the rest)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Huggy, toucher, helper (Doesn’t remember her that way. Her kids were always first tho)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
Kids around her, loved children, specializes in children crossing (No particular connection to children during her life. #24 had a reading many years ago [while his Mother was a live] where the psychic said his Mother’s soul mission was children)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Happy, smiling, able to help children, joy now (Again, with the children)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
My attention was drawn to my throat, blockage, hard to breathe (She died of old age, no particular throat issues)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
Little children, playing cards, maybe bridge, saw a lot of card tables (She did play cards with her husband early in her life [they were divorced when #24 was 9], not later in life, again no relationship with young children while alive)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
I saw him in a small boat, Mother on shore trying to get him to come in because of some danger, perhaps weather, he didn’t want to come in (Didn’t remember anything like that)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
She gave him something small before she died that was a momento of both she and #24’s Father. It was small enough to fit in a drawer, maybe like a wedding ring or picture of both of them. (He didn’t remember any such momento.)
Session #25, 1-17-2010
1. Describe my relationship to _______________.
Father (Father)
2. Describe their personality during their most recent physical lifetime.
Loving, caring, take care of people, sweet, good person, “didn’t do everything right” (Yes to everything, he had difficulty with personal relationships)
3. Is there anything unusual, outstanding or memorable about their dress or mannerisms?
Great laugh and smile, seemed to be a big thing to him, saw him in a uniform, same color pants and shirt (He was a practical joker, #25 couldn’t remember his laugh, was in the air force and #25 still has his uniform-same color shirt and pants)
4. In their current surroundings is there anything unusual, outstanding or meaningful?
Saw him relaxing in an outdoor lounge chair, resting, enjoying himself (He liked to fish, no particular memory to a lounge chair)
5. What are you feeling or experiencing?
Resting stage, regrouping, chillin’ out like maybe he had just died (He died 20 years ago)
6. What happened to you – how did you get here?
My attention was drawn to my chest, maybe heart, long illness, not sudden, relief it was over, lots of love around him when he died and that was helpful, “love helped the process” (He died of kidney/brain cancer – no chest correlation to her knowledge, it could have felt like a long time to him, family was around him when he died, he died when #25 was about 12)
7. What is your hobby, special interest or favorite thing to do?
I saw him mowing the lawn, being outside, reading paper, being with family (His passion was art, #25 thought that would have been something that would come up, no relationship to the rest, except he did love being with his family)
8. Describe a physical lifetime scene we were both in I will remember.
I saw him in the water throwing #25 as a child, up in the air and playing with her, could have been a vacation, other children around, it was somehow unusual or different (The family always went camping on vacation, but one time they did go to a lake – could have been that, but #25 had no particular memory of it)
9. Show, tell or give us something that proves this visit is real.
He came to her after he died, some sort of physical manifestation, #25 remembers and “Yes! It was him”, he came to other people as well. (When #25 was a teenager she played with a Ouija board and an entity came through and said it was her father. She always wondered if that was really him.)
Conclusions To come